The Real Solution


Seriously, do you have a better one?

Of course she is right, give teachers guns and they will start shooting students.



Nicole destroys the concept of a “Dumb Blond.”



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True story here


I was asked to deliver the eulogy at my best friends funeral.

It was going to be truly upbeat, I asked how many people knew that Dick Gardner played for The Brooklyn Dodgers, response, his kids and wife.








Yep he got Stan the Man Musial to pop up.

I asked all in attendance to stand up and sing “Take me out to the ball game.”

Then I asked who knew that he was a patriot and served in the U.S. Navy, and had the gathering stand face the flag and say the pledge of allegiance.

More was involved, I just cant remember it all today.



So whenever you hear this song, remember I’ll be up in Heaven looking out for you.



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Was it Obsession or True Love

By Jim Campbell

June 21st, 2018

It has been written that Paul McCartney’s love for his first wife Linda of Eastman Kodak fame might have been a bit of both.

Things we never knew about Paul’s Linda. (Source)


When the Beatles Broke up, Paul and Linda went their own way with their new group, “Wings.”



This was just one of their many hits.



We will never know the answer, perhaps a little of both.



Paul and Linda went on to make beautiful love songs together.

May God Bless Both of them.




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Come Get Your Love

By Jim Campbell

June 16, 2018

Make Them Love You by Taking (Not Giving)

Perhaps the gift could be something as simple as enjoying one another at a Miami Dolphins game.

Perhaps a Marlins game, something nice and slow that allows you to talk and learn more about each other.


In dating, is it more persuasive to give or receive?

You’ve probably been told to do nice things for the people you want to attract.
Maybe you’ve even been advised to buy presents, cook dinners, pay for dates, or perform thoughtful gestures to win the affection of a lover.

These were common customs in the “courtship” of earlier generations – and are common tactics among animals too.

But, what if all they want is to be friends?

If your thoughts, feelings and gifts were given with no ulterior motive, then just say Que Será, Será, meaning in Italian what will be will be and move on.

But, just because the tactic of giving is common, does not mean it is always the most effective.



Giving certainly has an effect, ON THE GIVER.

Those who care, give, or help in an unsolicited manner feel more positive, alive, and have higher self-esteem.

The giver also feels more committed to the recipient of their giving.

The effects of giving on the receiver, however, are much more mixed.


On one hand, receiving a gift can generate feelings of gratitude in romantic partners, increasing their liking and attraction towards the giver, and improving compliance with later requests.

On the other hand, receiving a gift might also generate negative feelings of obligation and not lead to reciprocity.

What This Means for Your Love Life

Whether it is “better to give or receive” depends on who you’re trying to influence.

Someone who gives to you has invested, committed, and devoted resources to you as a recipient of their giving.



Therefore, they may be more committed and attached when they give (and you take), versus when they receive from you.

So, how do you put this into practice in your love life?

Ultimately, it is O.K. to give others the gift of feeling good (by letting them give to you).

After all, you’re worth the investment too.




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Let the Music do the talking

By Jim Campbell

June 8th, 2018

The only time George Harrison sang with Roy Orbison,Jeff Lynn, Dylan, Tom Petty,

Not a bad group to jam.



Perfect song for you. two.

I’m in the midst of writing a book.

Running Title: The unauthorized back story on your favorite beautiful songs.

Their image may be copyright as well as their music.

I believe, Sony on behalf of Michael Jackson’s estate may have extended the copyright.

We shall see.

Rock on.


Well since you have already found each other please don’t mess it up.  O.K.?



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Do you believe in love at first sight?

By Jim Campbell

June 3rd, 2018


Love at first sight: Is it possible?

Do people really meet and in moments simply know they’re meant to be? New evidence suggests that yes, they do.

The idea is wonderfully romantic:

Two strangers see each other “across a crowded room,” there’s an instant attraction, an electric spark, and suddenly they’ve found their match and never look back. In a world where dating often requires a lot of work — work that comes with disappointment, rejection, and uncertainty — falling in love at first sight has strong appeal.



People say it happens all the time. If you start with personal testaments, love at first sight seems like the real deal. Prince Harry reportedly experienced it, saying he knew Meghan Markle was the one for him the “very first time we met” (BBC interview).

Of course, celebrities have no monopoly on the phenomenon; some evidence suggests that about 60 percent of people have experienced it (Naumann, 2004).

You probably have friends who swear this happened to them, or maybe you yourself just “knew” in that very first moment you laid eyes on your current partner.

But did it really happen?

Anecdotally but when put to scientific scrutiny  the answer is a resounding NO (Source)

It doesn’t exist and don’t even tell me you believe in it without a proper explanation.

Whatever happens on the first meeting is ATTRACTION and not love

Meeting someone for the first time,something must attract you to them. It could be their way of speaking,dance steps,dressing or smiles.



It doesn’t mean you love them,it only means they have caught your fancy. Attraction can be channeled to love and can also bring heart-break if not well handled.

Attraction is an interest. Someone’s  black thick eyes can instantly attract you to them.
It doesn’t mean you are ready enough to call it love.

Love has many definition. It is an intense feelings of affection and care toward someone while attraction is  the action or power of evoking interest in or liking for someone or something.

Attraction at first sight happens,not love. So that is the  based on the definition.

It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be very friendly the first time you meet people but don’t be fast to think you are in love because what you still have is ATTRACTION  which can be grown, developed in to love or shattered  into heartbreak.

Here are my personal 26 characteristics you can be attracted to in people that have nothing to do with their physical appearance.

1. Their hand writings.


2. Their laugh.

4. Being confident without being arrogant.

5. When their smiles makes other people smiles.

6. The way they quote their favorite movies.(Indian)

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7. Their voice.

8. Being able to admit they are wrong


9. Their secrets

If you can’t trust the one you are with, trust you won’t be with them long.

10. Their walking step.


11. Their knowledge on wide range of topics.

12. Their sense of humor

Would you rather be hanging around with a grouch?

15. Their love of sports





15. Their humility.



But of course!


22. Their good social skills – they know how to have a friendly conversation.

24. Their loyalty.


25.Their talk of motivation and drive.


With the above characteristics mentioned I can now stand on my own view : THERE IS NO THING AS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

Am not here to make anybody find fault in me. This is my own personal view on this topic.

I guess am able to convince any body reading this post or write up. This is my own view about “nothing like love at first sight”

I have a simple question for my fellow bloggers.

My questions for you:

  1. Have you ever love someone at first sight?
  2. Have you been attracted to someone at first sight


Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below. 

Written by Patrick with more help than he ever imagined from his unknown friend Jim.


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Mind Reading


By Jim Campbell

June 2nd, 2018

An acquaintance of mine recently surprised me with news that he was in the middle of getting divorced.

When I voiced my surprise he said, “You know, it’s like that built-in timer on the turkey:

When it pops up, you know it’s done.”

But wait, as you will read below there is still hope, so take off your parachutes.

If the end of a relationship must be, remember how great this one was when it started, reflect upon in and when you feel ready put your toe back in the water.

Rejoice, you both had a good thing going, would either of you settle for less?

Attention: if you both want it you got it so make it work.



It was a great analogy, but also an intriguing idea.

Most of us don’t have that pop-up timer within us or our relationships to let us know when we’re “done.”

So how do you really know?

Here are 4 clues that a relationship could be over—and 1 reason it might not be:




1. No sex, or a steady decrease in affection.

You might have been in the three-times-a-week club or the once-in-three-months club.

Either way, it’s a bad sign when sex gets back burnered or decreases (due to headaches, busy schedules, working late, kid interruptions), or when everyday affection patterns (the wave of the hand goodbye or the kiss out the door) dissolve.

This signifies disconnection. It may just be a temporary reaction to stress, but if it’s been going on for some time, it could indicate a relationship decline. 

The descent may not be a straight line to the bottom. You both may make half-hearted attempts to reignite the connections—the motivation for an out-of-the-blue hookup at 6 am or 11 pm.

But because of the general malaise in the relationship and the overall disconnect, it goes nowhere.



2. Communication is down.

Dinner conversations are about well, nothing, or a three-minute summary of work, or a total focus on the kids and whether they’re using their forks correctly.

After dinner is over, you both drift toward video games, getting the kids in bed, or Facebook.

Time off is not much different: If you have kids, there’s a focus on all those weekend soccer games or going to the park.

If not, it’s back online, bringing work home, or mowing grass. This is the structure of parallel lives, avoiding conversation about elephants in the room (or, for that matter, conversation in general), side-stepping conversations of any substance or intimacy because of fear of arguing, being dismissed, or confirming that your worse fears are actually real.

Everyone is awkward and walking on eggshells 24/7, and there are continuous “reasons” not to do things together.

3. Pet peeves are ramping up.

She’s always scratching her nose, he belches at the table, the sponge is left soggy in the sink.

And it all just spirals.

You argue all the time about this small stuff, and occasionally bigger stuff, but you know the drill:

Regardless of what you say or what the topic is, you know how this will end. At best, it goes nowhere; at worse, it isn’t pretty.

An increased sensitivity to trivial stuff is your brainis trying to connect the dots between your emotions and external behaviors.

You feel disconnected, maybe on the verge of leaving, and so, thanks to the power of cognitive dissonance, you need to bring your thoughts and feelings in line.

So you stack up evidence to bolster your mental case about why you feel the way you do, why things aren’t working, why you should leave. Get enough stuff in place and all the dots connect. Hence the all-important wet sponge.

4. You’re having fantasies of escape, and about your life after you do.

Maybe you’re thinking about a new relationship, or life in a quiet apartment by yourself. It’s easy to get enveloped in these thoughts—sometimes they are escape outlets when you feel particularly trapped.

But if such fantasies arise more and more frequently, and with greater detail, your subconscious may be sending you strong messages that it’s time to get out.

But wait…

All of that said, here’s the maybe:


There’s an important opportunity here that you may not want to overlook.

Big decision-making follows an arc from low-grade concern and specificity to ever-increasing concern and specificity.

 t’s only when the wedding march starts playing that they realize in their gut that it’s time to split.

When you are dangling on the top of that arch—with the bags packed and ready to go —that other, competing voices may begin to take hold.

It’s also a time when you can have this clarity to slow down and define how you really feel and what you are and are not willing to do.

Don’t automatically disregard these voices as cowardice or second thoughts.

Consider the two sides of the argument and pay attention to which is stronger.

If one part of you clearly says, yes, it’s time to leave, or to at least get some space and clear your head and see what happens next, go for it.

If another part says, wait, there’s more to try, there are possibilities for change, pay attention.



Don’t rush it: You may need a second or third mental pass to see what sticks. But see if there is a message to consider.

These are never easy decisions or even “right” ones.

Regardless of what action you take, there are likely to be days when you’ll wish you’d stayed and tried, and others when you’re grateful that you took the leap.

When emotions, events, and details overwhelm you, you don’t want to be 100% reactive.

Step back, look at what’s needed to break the dysfunctional pattern, and assess the big picture. 

Then step up, be decisive, and realize that you are always free to change your mind.



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