Is emotional stress a good thing or a bad thing: The best ways to harness it

By Jim Campbell

March, 20th, 2019

When everyday people describe their stress, they talk about never-ending to-do lists, the pressure to provide, relationship struggles, and other daily hassles.

You may secretly be stressing over the fact that you will be going away to college.

Forget about it, once you get on campus you will go through some of the best and lousy times in your very young life.

You may blow an exam, flunk a course, in the scheme of things does it really matter?

 

Remember your mom, your grandma an i are just a phone call away.

Speaking about your grandma, I almost got her flunked out of school, she was a freshman and I was a senior, to this day I think as fare as book smarts are concerned she was brighter than me.

Street sense not so much, but you have your own mom for that.

She will always steer you in the right direction if you choose to let her, as will I.

 

 

Dream, dream in a big manner, follow those dreams and make them come true.

You deserve it.!

Temporarily yes, as far as your future in concerned, likely not.

This is nothing like the stress of a lab rat being shocked unavoidably or forced to exercise without rest.

The stress of the rats was unpredictable, uncontrollable, and meaningless.

That’s why these rats grew ill and suffered.

But the vast majority of human stressors are not like that.

 

 

Approach stress like a challenge like high level athletes do, they look at it as another opportunity to meet a challenge against their competition head to head with the belief they will come out on top and their team will win.

Perhaps the most amazing comeback in College Football History.

Joe Montana in the locker room too ill to play while being hydrated and fed chicken soup.

With very little time left, he led his team to a come from behind victory when they were 34 points down in less that 8 minutes.

 

 

And, as we will see, no bad idea stays unpunished.

Why Believing “Stress Is Bad” Is Bad

In 1998, 30,000 Americans were asked to describe their stress. More specifically, researchers wanted to know: a) how much stress they experience, and b) whether they believe stress is harmful for their health.

Eight years forward, the researchers looked through public records to identify which of these former participants had died.

As it turns out, high levels of stress increased the risk of dying by 43 percent. However, this was only true for people who also believed that stress is harmful.

People who reported high levels of stress, but did not see it as harmful, were not more likely to die.

In fact, their risk of dying was the lowest in the study — even lower than for people experiencing low levels of stress.

In other words, stress isn’t killing people. It’s stress reactivity that does the killing.

Stress reactivity starts with the metaphor that is buried inside the word “stress” itself: Humans are like I-beams that crack and break when a weight is put on them.

If that is true, then that weight — that “stress” — is harmful and should be avoided and escaped.

That reason that stress is so toxic is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you meet stress with an attitude of “this is too much” and “I don’t want this,” you turn an otherwise natural and normal bodily experience into something dangerous. Your whole body will then shift into resistance and react as if it is under attack.

 

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What are great relationships made of?

May it be between two best friends, boyfriends and girlfriends, dads and daughters or granddads and granddaughters.

Yes it will take some effort on everyone’s behalf but in the end it’s absolutely worth it.

Some enjoy live the life of a loner, let them be.

 

Speaking words of wisdom:

Let it be.

 

Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Connection is a basic human need, but so often we find ourselves scared that what seems to be love will fizzle out — or worse.
The sad fact is it can sometimes be hard to tell if a relationship is actually good, or if it just seems that way on the surface.
In a world filled with stories of broken hearts and failed relationships, romance can seem daunting.
So, how can you know your love is healthy and that it has a future?
The truth is, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to spot a good match.
If your relationship has these five foundations, it’s built to last.

You Both Are Equals

 

Simply put, it takes two to tango. If you are starting to feel like a spectator in your relationship, it may be time to call it quits.
Think about recent decisions that impacted both of you.
If you are both equals, compromising and responding to each other’s input, that’s a great sign!
This is a great barometer because you can look at concrete examples to make sure you aren’t being swayed by how you feel in the moment.
Equal partners take steps together, always mindful of the other’s well-being and happiness.

On the other hand, if one of you always gets their way, the outlook isn’t too good.

This applies to little things, such as where to go on date night, what time dinner is, and who takes out the trash, as much as it applies to big things like where you’ll move or whether or not you want to have kids some day.

What can feel like a small thing at one moment becomes more than a hiccup if you notice a trend.

You Both Have Mutual Respect

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It might not seem like the most glitzy of emotions, but at the end of the day, respect is the workhorse of healthy love.

Beyond attraction and romance – dates, a healthy sex life, and simply enjoying each other’s company – partners in a healthy relationship fundamentally appreciate the other’s values and choices.

Not only that, but partners in love think highly of each other, despite each other’s flaws.

After the honeymoon period has worn off and each other’s flaws start to sink in, puppy love breaks down, but true love is just getting started.

 

 

When you both have mutual respect, you will find your partner listens to you when you are making a difficult decision or trying to work through a mistake, and tries to empathize even when they don’t quite relate.

Lovers who nitpick, criticize and patronize probably aren’t in it for the long haul.

Signs of a healthy relationship:

Open And Honest Communication

 

 

Communication is, in a lot of ways, directly tied to mutual respect.

 

Do you and your significant other talk about the hard stuff, such as finances, family and the future?
Do you remember to ask about each other’s days?
Do you address gripes and miscommunications?

This guy took life way to seriously, one of the most beautiful songs written and sung in my opinion.
We all have times when we’re a little self-involved and stressed out, but if you start feeling you and your partner are falling out of touch, check in about why that might be.
Open and honest communication is the fuel that drives a relationship.
If you are not learning about each other and growing together, you’re probably growing apart.
Open and honest communication is about more than words, too: it’s about the how it feels to talk to your partner.
There will always be hard talks, but if talking about the hard stuff makes you feel judged, belittled, or ignored, it’s time to move on.
Open communication needs respect and empathy to work.
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Being someone’s first love is great but being their last love is perfect

A touch of irony her my granddaughter.

My fraternity  brother, Doug Strawn played the base and sax for the Carpenters when they were so famous.

I never met them but Doug and I were quite close as fraternity brothers.

I believe you will make some connections should you choose to join a sorority when you begin college soon.

 

 

When your grandma and I took your mom camping sown in San Felipe, Baja Ca, we played their music for hours at a time.

 

 

The Carpenters were just an incredible group that lit up so many people’s lives.

 

 

This is also an amazing story about persistence.

If you want it and want it bad enough, don’t quit reach your goal and in the process reach for the stars as well.

 

 

2007 documentary about brother and sister duo the Carpenters, one of the biggest-selling pop acts of the 1970s, but one with a destructive and complex secret that ended in tragedy with Karen Carpenter’s untimely death at 32.

Featuring behind-the-scenes footage and interviews with Richard Carpenter, family and friends.

I only mention this to you my granddaughter is that if you ever find yourself having problems, reach out to your mom and dad or even me if you like.

There will always be someone available to help you.

I love you young lady.

The luckiest granddad on the planet.

 

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That’s what Friends are For

Dear Kaily and Heather

Perhaps it is because you have moved to Arizona and I making monthly visits to see you but I believe we are all getting closer as the result.

 

This song perfectly spells out my feeling toward  the both of you.

 

Indeed, the good times and the bad time, I’ll be there for ever more!

Myself, I’m kind of a loner, keeping myself busy with writing, training and occasional trips to the shooting range, along with having lunch with my friends 3 times a week.  

 

One thing in my life I’m absolutely sure about, if your weren’t with me in my mind and heart I would not be as happy a man as I am today.

I’ve always had so much with both of your and of course we can’t forget little Emmy and the Matt man.

I’ll be here for you as long as it’s God’s will and have made provisions that make sure you are all in good shape when I go to the Super Bowl in the sky. 

Love Grandpa and Dad.

 

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Words and thoughts for living more contented lives

Comment by Jim Campbell

March 11th, 2019

 

Not to worry, this site isn’t changing to be a Biblical one, I just find his words of wisdom very uplifting and wanted to share them with you.

Joel Osteen Quotes On Love, Life and Destiny make a great deal of sense, and can open one’s eyes if they find themselves going through a rough spell.

Joel Osteen is the senior pastor at the Lakewood Church, which is the largest church in Houston, Texas

 

People travel from all over the US to hear Joel preach on Sunday, and over 7,000,000 million people tune in worldwide each week.

 

Joel is also known for his best-selling books; Think Better, Live Better, The Power Of I Am, I Declare, Your Best Life Begins Each Morning, Fresh Start, You Can, You Will, Become a Better You and Wake Up To A Better You.

 

We had fun searching the web for our favorite motivational Joel Osteen quotes about life, love and the most high!

 

 

Enjoy and spread the love!

 “Don’t go into the new year holding a grudge from last year. Leave the hurts and disappointments behind.”

This Joel Osteen quote in Practice: Whether it’s a new year or a new day, we cannot move forward if we are stuck in the past.

We cannot move forward and stand still at the same time.

We have to choose one. Ask yourself, “How does carrying this baggage benefit me?” “If I could let go of this baggage, would I?”

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“Don’t just accept whatever comes your way in life. You were born to win; you were born for greatness; you were created to be a champion in life.”

Practice: Be selective.

Know who you are.

Have standards. Just because something is right in front of you, doesn’t mean it’s meant for you.

Develop the qualities of a winner and begin to see yourself as a winner. You were not born to be average.

Like all things in nature, you were born with a purpose to push things forward.

Do your part and do the best you can.

 

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Joel Osteen Quotes on Moving Forward

 “Don’t live worried, frustrated or upset because of what somebody did or what didn’t work out. Come back to a place of peace.

It’s not going to work against you; it’s going to work for you.”

What are 3 things you’ve learned in the past 6 months?

What were the life lessons?

What circumstances taught you these lessons?

Everything that happens to you is here to teach you something.

Are you applying what you’re learning?

Things didn’t work out? Look at the person next you…things didn’t always work out for them either.

Keep learning, keep growing and keep moving forward.

 

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 “Don’t waste your energy trying to convince people to understand you.

Your time is too valuable to try to prove yourself to people.”

People hear what they want to hear and see what they want to see. Don’t take it personal.

If you’re looking to achieve goals and do things differently in your life, most people will not understand.

Most people will see you for who you were and not who you’re becoming.

If you can live with being misunderstood, then you will be able to move forward.

 

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Joel Osteen quotes on life and loving others

“Encouragement to others is something everyone can give.

Somebody needs what you have to give. It may not be your money; it may be your time.

It may be your listening ear. It may be your arms to encourage. It may be your smile to uplift.

Who knows?”

Take a second and think about a moment when someone encouraged you.

When someone helped you see your problem or situation in a new light, from a new perspective.

Think about how powerful those words were. People need to be heard and affirmed.

And, the best part about that is no matter where you are financially, you can provide that to someone who needs it.

How would our ability to touch and impact the lives of others grow if we dedicated all of our communication towards listening and uplifting.

How much would that cost you?

 

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“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended.

But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness.

You can choose to not let little things upset you.”

This Joel Osteen quote in Practice: Every day there will be 100 reasons to be upset, 100 reasons to feel overwhelmed and 100 instances where you feel taken advantage of, hurt or slighted. This is part of the human experience.

What is also part of the human experience is our choice in response.

As you know but it’s worth repeating, you can’t control what any one else says or does.

But what you have full control over is how you interpret the situation, respond and what you decided to focus on.

Whatever you focus on the longest, grows the strongest.

 

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“God wants you to have a good life, a life filled with love, joy, peace, and fulfillment. That doesn’t mean it will always be easy, but it does mean that it will always be good.”

This Joel Osteen quote in Practice: Most people can’t recognize the good life when they have it.

The good life doesn’t mean a life free of problems, conflict, setbacks and drama.

The good life doesn’t mean that every day is perfect and you have somehow transcended over all negativity.

I believe, the good life, is simply when you are able to recognize all the good in your life – where ever and when that is.

The good life grows, when you build on what is already good and working in your life.

Pay attention to whats working for you, then work it!

 

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“God will always bring the right people into your life, but you have to let the wrong people walk away.” – Joel Osteen

This Joel Osteen quote in Practice: We have the ability to go out and meet great people all the time.

Whether it’s at a meet up, a course we’re taking, school, work, volunteering for a cause we care about – there is no shortage of great people.

However, we will never get a chance to meet them if we are caught in a pattern of hanging around the people who don’t help move our life forward.

 

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 “God would not have put a dream in your heart if He had not already given you everything you need to fulfill it.”

Imagine if you truly believed that the dreams and goals you have were given to you for the sole purpose of accomplishing them.

Dreams and goals and are not just fleeting moments of inspiration. If acted upon, these moments can help us create a life that is exciting and fulfilling.

Take inventory on yourself and your life.

What do you spend most of your time thinking about?

What experience do you already have in that area?

What strengths do you have in that area?

Who could you call today who might be able to give you so helpful advice?

What are 2-3 classes you can take?

Or books you can read? You have everything you need to get everything you want.

 

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“I believe if you keep your faith, you keep your trust, you keep the right attitude, if you’re grateful, you’ll see God open up new doors.”

We will never be able to recognize opportunities if we first don’t recognize all that we have and all that we’ve been given.

How often do you pray or meditate?

When things get tough, what are some things you tell yourself?

How often do you just sit back and reflect on all the things that are working in your life? Make it a daily practice to do so.

 

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“If you have your health, if you have people in your life to love, you are blessed. Slow down and enjoy the simple things in life.”

“If you want success, if you want wisdom, if you want to be prosperous and healthy, you’re going to have to do more than meditate and believe; you must boldly declare words of faith and victory over yourself and your family.”

“You will never change what you tolerate.”

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life.

“It may look like the difficulty is going to defeat you.

But you need to keep telling yourself, “This sickness can’t take my life.”

“This cancer can’t defeat me.”

“No bad break, no disappointment, no accident can shorten one second of my divine destiny.”

It’s our faith that activates the power of God.”

“Keep in mind, just because you don’t know the answer doesn’t mean that one does not exist.

You simply haven’t discovered it yet.”

“Life’s too short to spend it trying to keep others happy. You can’t please everyone.

To fulfill your destiny, stay true to your heart.”

“You may think there is a lot wrong with you, but there is also a lot right with you.”

Quotes on love and hope

“Make the decision and say, “I’m not letting that worry in.

I’m done being upset when my plans don’t work out. I’m not letting that stress in.”

Negative thoughts will still come to your mind, but you don’t have to let them into your spirit.”

“No matter what’s happening, choose to be happy. Don’t focus on what’s wrong. Find something positive in your life.

Thank God for the small things.”

“Nothing in life has happened to you. It’s happened for you. Every disappointment.

Every wrong.

Even every closed-door has helped make you into who you are.” –

“See, when you drive home today, you’ve got a big windshield on the front of your car. And you’ve got a little bitty rear view mirror.

And the reason the windshield is so large and the rear view mirror is so small is because what’s happened in your past is not near as important as what’s in your future.”

“Start believing today that things are going to change for the better. Your best days are still out in front of you.”

“Start calling yourself healed, happy, whole, blessed, and prosperous. Stop talking to God about how big your mountains are, and start talking to your mountains about how big your God is!”

“Stones of judgment, discouragement or doubt may be thrown at you. You can’t stop them, but you can make the choice to keep your walls up and not let them affect you.”

“There is a winner in you. You were created to be successful, to accomplish your goals, to leave your mark on this generation. You have greatness in you.

The key is to get it out.”

“To live your best life now, you must learn to trust God’s timing, you may not think He’s working, but you can be sure that right now, behind the scenes, God is arranging all the pieces to come together to work out His plan for your life.”

“When you face adversity, you need to remind yourself that whatever is trying to defeat you could very well be what God will use to promote you.”

“You can change your world by changing your words…

Remember, death and life are in the power of the tongue.”

“When you go through enough dark places, you don’t complain about little things.

You don’t lose your joy because you got stuck in traffic; you don’t get offended because a coworker was rude to you.

You’ve been through too much to let that sour you.”

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”

“Love overlooks a person’s faults. That’s not always easy, but love believes the best in every person.

Anybody can return evil for evil, but God wants His people to help heal wounded hearts.”

“You cannot expect victory and plan for defeat.”

“You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.”

“The more you talk about negative things in your life, the more you call them in. Speak victory not defeat.”

“You have to come to your closed doors before you get to your open doors.

What if you knew you had to go through 32 closed doors before you got to your open door?

Well, then you’d come to closed-door number eight and you’d think, ‘Great, I got another one out-of-the-way’… Keep moving forward.”

“Don’t worry about your future or how you’re going to accomplish a dream. God has already lined up what you need.”

“All of us can look back and see things that should have defeated us.

You’re still standing. That’s the goodness of God.”

“You are strong, blessed, healthy, redeemed. You are God’s masterpiece.”

“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”

Keep dreaming, hoping and planning.”

“Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life.” 

“People respond when you tell them there is a great future in front of you, you can leave your past behind.” 

“There may be times when you just have to love people from a distance.”

“You’re not really free until you’re free from trying to please everybody.”

 “The life in front of you is far more important than the life behind you.”

“Once this day is over we can never get it back. Your time is too valuable to waste it being upset.”

“When you focus on being a blessing, God makes sure you are always blessed in abundance.”

“Life happens to all of us.

Don’t use delays, interruptions or unfair situations as an excuse to get upset. Release control.”

Your Words Become Your Reality – Joel Osteen

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Joel Osteen’s simple, yet practical style of preaching inspires hope and encouragement.

He’s one of the most watched inspirational figures in America, and God has truly used him to bless many.

Hopefully, your life will be transformed through these inspirational quotes from the ‘The Smiling Preacher’.

Did you enjoy these Joel Osteen quotes? What other Joel Osteen quotes would you add to the list?

Tell us in the comment section below! Also, don’t forget to share these words of wisdom with your friends and loved ones.

 

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When things don’t turn out as we expect

By Jim Campbell

March 9th, 2019

 

There’s no avoiding it – at some point, we all experience disappointment in our lives.

Nobody enjoys that feeling but if you’re  aware of the thoughts below you will likely avoid many of the bumps in the road ahead in your life.

Never the less, it is something we all need to deal with and have dealt with so you are not alone.

 

You know that dwelling in ‘what could have been’ doesn’t help, but how do you pick yourself up and turn that negative feeling into productive action?

These are my three simple steps, to help you get past life’s hurdles and start looking forward to the next adventure.

 

 

When you find yourself in this predicament lust let go of the problem(s).

 

Trying to control almost all aspects of your little world is at best a difficult task, and in reality impossible.

 

It our country were filled by people who were continually focusing on the negative it would be a bummer of a place to live.

 

Try by changing the channel, or switching your focus and state of mind on the immediate issues at hand.

 

Begin by focusing on the things that are working for you.

A little fear of the unknown here?

Forget about it, wait until you take some tests and see how well you did.

Fear of the unknown is just that, fear of the unknown.

If you are fortunate enough to hot get uptight about this sort of a new beginning you are very unusual indeed.

 

Does your immediate family love you?

 

Do your grandparents love you?

 

Do you have friends who either like you or love you?

 

 

Avoid negative people, they live in the realm of yesterday and choose to focus on the past, wasted time at best.

 

Stay in the present, with anticipation of a positive outcome in life’s adventures ahead.

 

It’s your choice, ask your inner self if you would rather be happy or said?

 

Opt for happiness, the sky is the limit, start today.

 

If none of the above works, play this song over and over until it does.:-)

Song

 

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In a perfect world

To my beautiful intelligent Granddaughter.

March 7th, 2019

 

Stop the music, the world isn’t perfect and there is absolutely no reason on earth to be frustrated or upset with yourself if you aren’t on target all the time.

This of course doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be the best we can be.

Just take it as it goes and do the best you can.

 

Perfect worlds and perfection only exist in our minds and in video games.

If we are perfect, life would get pretty boring, it’s figuring out how to play the game that makes life truly interesting.

 

 

Just think, in a perfect world, everyday would be Christmas, Easter and

 

Halloween all on the same day.

Would that be boring or what?

Me, I’m always looking for the next adventure, just around the corner and I’ve had a very happy life.

 

I love you, your mom, Emmy and Matt Man.

I’m looking forward to come out and spend Easter week with you!

Love Grandpa Campbell

 

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